Thursday, May 2, 2013


Alright so I was avoiding to write on this blog until I felt like I had more wisdom or logic...

but it wan't coming.

Here are some thoughts I have been having concerning VALUE.

Being female between the ages of 12 and 100 basically ensures low self confidence days. Days when you don't feel valuable or beautiful. Well this post is here to remind us where our real value should be coming from. My hope is that someday, when one of those days creeps up on us, we can stare ourselves in the face and say...
"Thank you for your criticism, but it isn't all that constructive," 
and remember just how precious we actually are. 

As women in our day and age, I feel like most of us seek value from success, beauty and male praise.
But let's be real, we all feel this way. 
If I were to ask what makes us feel confident, and we were to respond honestly, I think most of us would say; when I was dating so and so, when I weighed such and such, when I landed this or that. Not that having boys attention, having good health, or being accomplished are bad things, but when we put all of out apples into these baskets, we will almost always come out feeling empty.

Real value comes from knowing who we are. 

As a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, I have grown up repeating the following sentence, "We are daughters of our Heavenly Father, who loves us, and we love him." 
Something about saying this every Sunday during everyones' "Awkward years," kept my head above water, and I never understood why. 
As time has gone by, I have learned. 

While beauty fades, people grow up, and accomplishments are forgotten, the truth of who we are and where we have come from never leaves us. Regardless of our beliefs, we all have roots that define us. We all have a cause we see fit to join in on. We all want to help make the world a little better. 

A couple of nights ago I was blessed with the opportunity to be invited into Sister Elaine S. Dalton's home. I had had a classic low confidence day that so often hits each of us, but was pleasantly surprised that the first words out of her mouth to each of us was, "How radiant you are!" She preceded to talk about how each of our lives will be so different, but that we each have a particular skill set within us to change the world. She called us her "Game Changers." 

And isn't that what we are as women? 
We hold within us the power to create life, to raise children to be decent and loving. 
We have the power to brighten days with warm smiles and sincere words.

Makes you and me.

So smile. And remember when you aren't feeling confident.
Just how powerful you are.

She is a daughter. She is a best friend.
She is a pocket full of light. She is a spark of
something good, getting brighter; a dream grown
large; the right thing at the right time.

She is a dancer, a singer, a thinker, a
truth-teller. A connoisseur of all the things this
wide world has to offer. Her spirit is the
first thing people notice. Her mind always had
a mind of its own. Her heart, though it has 
sometimes been hurt, bears a strong resemblance 
to a daffodil: it always flowers again.

So she wakes with anticipation. She
finds new hills to climb. And everyone agrees
that the very fact of her in the world means
there is still so much good to come.
Who is She? She is me. She is you.
I am her.

Dedicated to Savannah Dawn Henshaw
The biggest example to me of an exemplary woman

1 comment:

  1. haley, i stumbled across your blog and i just have to tell you i think you are such an amazing girl! i wish i would have had time to get to know you better. i could tell you were pretty amazing when we had seminary together for that short time when you were a little sophomore. keep shining!